Check-Ups

Baby George and Sis had their well child visit this morning. They are both healthy, healthy!

Stats:

BG - 12 mos.
Weight 21.6 lbs. 50%
Height 31.5 in. 95%

Sis - 18 mos.
Weight 21.6 lbs. 10% (yes, the weigh the same...I thought for sure BG had passed her up)
Height 31.75 in. 50%

Both are doing all the milestones for their age. Sis is even doing many off of the list for age 2-3!

What I Know

It's been almost 13 years since I became a parent. I have learned so much...and yet I know I have much more to learn. I have parented lots of babies and a few toddlers and pre-schoolers but have yet to embark upon the grade school years...or dare I say teenage years! Of course Tuba is chronologically becoming a teenager but in his development he is still a toddler or pre-schooler in most areas. Now, mix in hormones that will be coming with the teens...YIKES!

Last week we went to visit our friends' church. Fr. Tom is an Orthodox priest and has the loveliest wife, Pat. We love to visit their parish. As we were visiting with them Pat asked us, "So, tell me two things you have learned this last year". We had been talking about the kids and how busy it is with Cam in Grad school. I thought for a minute and replied with these two things:

1. I've learned (or striving to learn) to live in the moment. Don't worry about dinner, or the calendar of tomorrow, or next month. Focus on the task at hand, or enjoy the moment I'm in with the kids...or on the flip side...when babies are crabby and things are falling apart...just stay in the moment...this too shall pass:)

2. Hmmm...I don't even remember the second thing I said....thinking....thinking...hmmmm...I don't know???? Well, I'll just add lib here. If I had to say something else that I've learned about parenting I would say to have a routine. I of course LOVE routine so this is easy for me. But, I really see the value of it. It makes kids happy...and Moms too.

I then asked Pat to answer the same question. She is a Super Mom and teacher, excellent priest's wife and leader in their parish. I knew what she would have to say would be great!

Fr. Tom and Pat have a teenage daughter and a college age son. Her two things are:

1. Find a balance between being strict and having a good relationship with your kids.

2. Find time to spend one-on-one with your kids. She said Fr. Tom does "office hours" with his kids. He pops into their bedroom on occasion and asks if they have time for office hours. Then he sits with them and chats. I loved what she had to say. When I got into the car I wrote it down so I could remember it. Maybe I should have written down what I said:)

I would love to hear what other parents have to say...So, what are two things you have learned about parenting? Leave it in the comments or send me an email camandbeck@hotmail.com. I'll compile them all and post to my blog.

Give

I received the latest Sponsorship Newsletter from our adoption agency AAI this week. I was so moved by the stories in the newsletter that I wanted to share them here on my blog. Cam and I sponsor kids in Ethiopia and I encourage everyone to do the same. The difference we can all make in a child's life is amazing. Even in this tough economy I believe most of us can afford to get involved. As Americans we have so much.

The Power of a Letter

For many children in the sponsorship program, nothing shows support like a letter from their sponsors. So many of the children are orphaned, with no extended family and tackle life’s every day challenges completely alone. To receive a letter from someone on another continent away, helps these children to feel less alone. For some, it gives them the inspiration to persevere and continue with their educational goals. Aseresahagn Geze is an older boy who has been in our sponsorship program since 2006. He lives alone in a small, mud, plastered house and has faced a lot of hard ships in his life. Aseresahgn is presently in the 10th grade and will be taking the Ethiopian National Exam which will determine whether or not he gets into University. Aseresahgn hopes to one day be an agriculturist and has a strong passion for the sciences. Most recently his sponsor got in touch with me and asked if there was anything ‘extra’ she could do for him. I agreed on my next trip to take some small gifts for him and in the end she elected to purchase some science text books for him to help with his studies. I forgot how heavy text books can be, and in my final days of getting ready for my trip, I found myself packing and unpacking my suit cases to make sure they were the proper weight and debating on what I needed to leave behind so I could get the text books to Aseresahagn. I’m glad I decided to hand carry the lightest of the books, because when I came into the office one morning, I had a very uplifting email waiting for me. Miriam, one of our social workers. This is what Miriam wrote, “I was able to meet Aseresahagn Geze last Monday and have delivered the books that were sent from his sponsoring family. He was very happy to have them. He told me that it will help him on his studies and so he is very happy. He has sent his warm thanks and greetings for the sponsoring family. Aseresahagn felt very loved and wanted as he got these books, so blushed with smile and was a bit nervous saying there is really some one who cares about me. He is very grateful about the concern that the family has shown him.”
All letters can be sent care of me to our Port Angeles office and I will forward them to Ethiopia. Small gifts such as t-shirts, cd’s, friendship bracelets and the like can also be sent over.

Help Fix Aster's Home

Aster is a very independent young lady who has been in our sponsorship program since March of 2005. She lives alone and has no family support system, but manages to overcome her challenges as best she can. Aster lives in a very small, run down house on the side of the road to a place called Mekansia in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. Aster works hard at her schooling and is presently getting ready to take her 8th grade exams. She gets distracted from her studies due to her poor living conditions and the lack of support in her life. She reports that she is often very lonely. Aster knows that her schooling is very important, but sometimes gets frustrated as the only income she receives is the monthly allotment from sponsorship, which does not cover all of her living expenses. She does not have the time to go to school and work, and has been considering leaving school to work. At the advice of our social workers, she keeps persevering. She now has to deal with the fact her home is in desperate need of repair, and with the rainy season around the corner, she worries about her living conditions. One of our handymen at Layla House has visited Aster's home to evaluate the repairs she needs to protect her from the torrential downpours that will begin in June. He estimates the cost to be about 12,000 Ethiopian birr, which equates roughly to $1070 U.S. To date, we still need to raise $630 to help with the repairs of Aster’s home. You can donate via http://cts.vresp.com/c/?AdoptionAdvocatesInt/4d56936bcc/0eaabe1308/300dc24a3a and just click on the donate now button, make sure to specify that your donation is for Aster,. You can also donate via Facebook by following this link, http://cts.vresp.com/c/?AdoptionAdvocatesInt/4d56936bcc/0eaabe1308/2212833ed4/m=17855d80

I am also pleased to announce that we will be commencing sponsorship for children at Opportunity House. It is often more challenging to find adoptive families for these children and many children are housed there for extended periods of time and require around the clock care due to their disabilities. The children at Opportunity House have a variety of special needs including autism, blindness, deafness, and developmental delays. The cost to sponsor a child with special needs will be $35 a month. Regular updates and reports will be sent when available and until the child find a “forever family”. In the case of sponsored children being adopted, you can opt to cancel your sponsorship or be assigned a new child in the program.

Meet Bilen. She is 8 years old with semi-paralysis of her hand and leg. She may also have a type of intellectual disability, but is a fast learner and can write some words, play games and complete puzzles with one hand. Bilen shows remarkable achievements in her schooling and is cheerful and understands what is being told to her. If you would like to sponsors Bilen and learn more about her, please contact me at brooke@adoptionadvocates.org.

Cake Time

Baby George had a great 1st Birthday. He loved his cupcake and presents...and all the love and attention showered on him.

It was a Curious George theme party...how cute is Curious George?!

Patiently waiting for cake....mmmmm

I thought he'd rip right into his cake but he quietly waited while we sang to him.

Slow to get going on eating. I had to take George off the cake and give it to him to lick the frosting....Yum...double vanilla cupcake with vanilla cream cheese frosting...and sprinkles.

Uh-oh....Mommy forgot to take the paper off the cupcake and BG REALLY got mad when I momentarily took it away to remove....Yikes, should have let him eat the paper! He did recover quickly and enjoyed eating the rest.

Here's BG's feet...you know you're eating something good when you have to brace yourself! He always does this at mealtime...so funny:)

The Big One!

The baby is One today!!! Happy Birthday sweet Baby George.

Precious baby boy.

We always do pancakes with a birthday candle on the morning of birthdays. BG ripped the non-lit candle out before I could snap the photo. Then he grabbed the craisins and undid the #1. You can't stop a hungry birthday boy:)

A smile now that he's eaten a bit.

His party with cake is on Sunday...so more photos later. We plan to go to the park today. It's a beautiful day to celebrate our beautiful boy's birth.

Seizure Free

Tuba is seizure FREE!!!! I haven't seen any seizures for over a week. Such good news. I think the new seizure drug he is taking is making the difference...or the VNS started to work...I don't know...and won't know for sure. This can be frustrating to me...me who likes to know the whys of everything! It's an important reminder for me to put trust and faith in God and let go. I will enjoy this relief from the seizures. Thanks be to God.

Homecoming

One year ago today Cam and Lydia came home from Ethiopia. It was a wonderful day...finally getting to hold my daughter in my arms. We were now a family of 6...soon to be 7. Baby George is even in the photo...you just can't see him under all that tummy :0)

Today we had the re-adoption here in our state. By coincidence it was booked on this special anniversary. Now it's a double celebration day:) We got all spiffed up and went to the court house to appear before a judge. After the ceremony we went out for lunch to celebrate. Tuba is seated WAY off to the side because he liked sitting there and we knew if we made him move and stand up that it could turn UGLY! So...it is what it is! Here's our beautiful family...we are gorgeous;)